Oooolalaaaaaa Tag

Have been tagged by Poppin for.............well, figure it out readers

Midnight Masala

Too tired and exhausted after the daily routine of doing mundane work around the house, taking care of the kid, cooking, catching up on email,making dinner, feeding.....the list goes on.........
Finally when its bed time, after a little reading, the one and only thing thats on your mind is SLEEP, then go ahead and sleep, comfy and cozy with the comforter on and the fan running with a nice breeze........
An hour into the night, after getting some sleep and having rested a little....wake up to a midnight masala.....works great being a little drowsy, kind of like 'where am I,is it a dream or real' feeling.

*Not going to work with new moms,since the baby's sleep schedule is bound to clash!*

SAHM-Common term in the blog world

I have read many posts on DesiMomz Club on SAHM Vs Working Mom,the differences, what has been the choice with many bloggers, why they chose what they chose, whether they are happy with the decisions etc.I think the question to ask is, if you are happy with your decision and if it is working out fine with the child, the husband and rest of the involved family.

We were a family of 5, my parents and my 2 older brothers.I have spent my entire childhood, with my mom always at home, taking care of us, cooking, helping us with our homework, teaching techniques to remember the difficult math formulas etc.Even though my mom could have gone outside the house and worked, she never did, thinking she would wreck the family order.After a while we got so used to her being at home all the time, even a few years of tuition and a little bit of teaching in a public school,was too much time away from her for the 3 siblings.So, that way we were very,very spoilt:-)

I grew up as not a very career oriented person, may be because I never saw my mom go to work, or may be because it was never in me.Got married at 21 and came to the US and enjoyed the first year with out doing much.Then I did a certificate program taking breaks here and there.Started my first job in 2003, worked for almost 3 years and then decided to plan for a baby.

From the time we started planning for the baby,I wanted to stay at home with my baby after birth until she was around 2 years old.I knew that for sure.This was in order to enjoy the time with the little one, and not go through the whole issue of sending her to day care,and me juggling with a job, the house and the baby.Knowing my mentality, I knew it would be next to impossible.Hubby was supportive of my decision.

I had to quit my job earlier than I thought,in my 6Th month of pregnancy due to a lot of sickness and weight loss until that point.She was born in march of '06 and it has been an amazing experience so far.I can not imagine missing out on all the wonderful things she has been doing and saying and just to have seen her grow from a tiny 6 pound er to a mischievous toddler(18 months).From the last couple of months,I have been getting restless to get back to work, to get back to doing something.I am going to be stressed out as a working mom, I know that, but I still want to be out there working, and not feeling left out once my daughter is out doing her own thing.Bottom of my heart, I am not put up to stay at home 'forever' and it does not make sense in any way to do that.Not only for the money, but just to feel the independence of working and having my own life outside the house and family.

For the most part I enjoy this time with her at home, but there are times when I see and hear about working moms, who are managing everything well and feel left out and feel the need to be on the other side.I know its matter of time before I get out to work.I am glad that I have this choice of staying at home with my little angel for now.

17 Month Update

Looking at my little daughter,and seeing what she has been up to recently is making me write this post.Not that I have been writing regularly,which I would love to but am not able to.....since I hardly get around to check my email and respond.The only time I sit in front of the computer is in the mornings and afternoons when she is napping.I don't like to browse in the evenings or night time when I can spend that time with hubby.

Going back to the reason for this post,I feel Miss D is doing/saying a lot of new things in the past month than any other other time.She has been picking up on almost everything we say.

Vocab:She can say around 15 words.She can immitate sounds of 5 different animals.She knows when to say 'akka' and 'anna'.If she sees food in a book,she tries to take a piece and put it in her mouth:-)She did that with strawberries.

Activity:She can point at different objects in a book when asked,and will say the names of things when pointed to.HORSE still remains her favorite.She climbs anything and everything and does not stop at that,she starts dancing after climbing either the sofa,or the coffee table or the bed.

Sleeping:There is a change in the way she falls asleep,a big one.Does not want to be rocked any more,ya....I can't believe it,I thought I would be rocking her until she went to first grade.She has her milk and lies down on the bed,sucks her thumb,and dozes off slowly turning and tossing.It is a big relief.

Eating:She has been a good eater right from the start and has not changed much.A good change is her fruit eating habit,she never used to eat fruits other than a banana once in a while,but from the last couple of weeks she has been eating water melon,strawberries and oranges.Her dad has never been and is still not a good fruit eater,so hoping she does not get that from him:-)

Dancing: I have to make this a separate category,since this girl just LOVES to move her body.It does not have to be an actual song.....it can vary from a mini song from a commercial or a ring tone from a cell phone or any other tune that has some music.Her current favorite is the song 'Tara Rum Pum Pum' from the same movie.

All in all,she is our main source of entertainment & does things the whole day that are way too cute:-)God knows how I would spend my day with out her running around in front of my eyes:-)Love You D !!!

Tagged

I have been tagged by Poppins about when I would judge others.For me,its not an easy thing to write about.Lets see how I do......

I would judge someone if he/she:
# Keeps talking about how every member of their family has studied very well with multiple degrees and how they are doing very well in life.

#Tries to show off desperately the things they do-like gifts they give others.

#Does certain 'bodily actions/sounds' in public,which are strictly supposed to be private.

#Does not respect their parent or not care for them when they most need the support or knowingly give them a hard time,just to make their own lives easy.

#Manipulates others lives/actions on a given day just to make sure that their day turns out the way they want it to.

#Pretends to listen to you while talking,but does not sink in half the information just because they are pre-occupied with some other thing.This is my big one,I will conclude the person has no respect for you and I would feel the same way towards him.You have to be a good listener before you are a good talker.

#Always indirectly asks for compliments,but does not give any to others.

Guess that's all I can do for now......

RD and A1A2's Mom-How about picking up on the tag?

Life As A Nomad

This morning I was counting the number of days we would be at home in the month of July and the number I came up with......9 !!! It started with our Pennsylvania trip for the long weekend during the first week of July.Got back home that Saturday and left the following monday to go and stay at my hubby's cousin's house for 3 days(Hubbs was away on work),got back middle of the week.Left again that sunday night with hubby to give him company during his stay in Hartford.We are heading back home today(after 4 nights),and guess what?yep,we are leaving again this sunday afternoon to Atlanta,to his sister's house and will be back on August 1st !!! So can we officially be called as Nomads,even though we have a single family home of our own?I think so.........

Our stay in Hartford is not bad at all,much better than what I expected.We are staying at a 2 bedroom,2 bath hotel suite,which is similar to or bigger than most apartments I have seen.There is a full furnished kitchen,so I have been making meals for Miss D and some for us too.The weather is nice,so we go out for walks in the evenings,and check out the local action after hubby gets back around 6pm.The best part,no cleaning,no doing the sheets,no worrying about messing up the room.....well,a little;-))

Looking forward to out trip to Atlanta,first because they have moved in to a new house with a nice big swimming pool:-))Best part.Second,to all the help I will get taking care of D,my SIL has two teenage boys and she adores Miss D and would love to hold her 24/7.Third,I am hoping to comfortably leave D in their care and get some time off to ourselves,catch a movie or a nice sit down dinner.

Now the question is -am I enjoying all this traveling or is it too much time away from home,routine and my comfy zone?Yes and no.On a general note,I love to travel,see new places,meet people,enjoy the days of no cooking,cleaning...but at the same time,I will miss my home,and miss my swimming classes,Miss D's Gymboree classes and everything else that happens while we are home.When we were a couple,its a different feeling to be out and not care about where we are.With a kid,its not as easy or may be we take longer to adjust to their routine in a new place than themselves adjusting.I have been packing and unpacking a million times and its no fun.

I am able to do all this since I am a SAHM.Soon Miss D will be ready to go to pre-school and I will hopefully be back in the working world,and will not be as flexible as I am now.So,I should enjoy these carefree days with her and let her enjoy the time with me.

Fun week with 5 other kids

We got together with 5 other couples with kids during the July 4th long weekend.I was so excited about the trip from a long time,since I was going to meet 2 kids whom I had not seen at all and hang out with our friends,which we had not done in a long time.The reason being,everyone was busy getting pregnant and having babies in the year 2006.We met on Tuesday night and drove back home on Saturday.

We had rented an apartment in a resort in a hilly area,nothing much to do,but very scenic.What with so many little ones,we ended up at home most of the time,so the place where we stayed didn't matter.We took a lot of food to cook,especially for the kids.The whole dining table was filled with junk food that everyone brought.We managed to finish most of it !:-)!The adults had a great time,am sure the kids enjoyed too.

Miss D was a little unhappy the night we got there,she slept at the very end of our drive and woke up in a new place,with a whole bunch of new faces looking at her.She kinda freaked out,but was fine the next morning.She enjoyed the rest of the stay,and started playing with an older boy,running behind him and trying to imitate him.She was the only girl among 4 boys:-)You appreciate and enjoy what other kids do only when you have one of your own,at least that has been the case with me.It was so much fun watching all of them run around,pulling each others toys,tugging each others shirts and falling over one and other.

Hope we meet like this often,its a pleasure incomparable to others to see them together.

I hate when I shout

I am writing this with a very bad feeling about myself.I yelled at my little daughter,she cried and went to bed and I can still hear her taking those deep breaths on the monitor,the ones that last much after they stop crying.I yell and the very next second feel terrible about it.Only wish I could hold off just before I am about to loose it and control myself.It happens sometimes,but I catch myself yelling at her once in a while and I HATE myself later.

She had a fun day playing with her second cousin and then spent the evening with her neighbor playmate who is her age.She was very sleepy when I took her upstairs to bed.She's been very unhappy about diaper changes lately and it is a big challenge to change her,especially at night before going to bed.So I was prepared with things to entertain her,and tried to distract her with things which usually would catch her attention,but not tonight.She had a little diaper rash to begin with and I tried hard to sweet talk her while changing and she would not let me do it.Then I yelled,she started to cry and I yelled more and she cried more and more.The work was done,she drank milk while trying to console herself,and dozed off in a few minutes.In the mean time,I almost had tears in my eyes,the poor baby had a diaper rash and was so sleepy and all she wanted was not to be changed.

Hmmm,its all part and parcel of motherhood,raising a child,trying to be a good parent........will feel better once I hug and kiss her in the morning.Waiting to see the cute smile on my darling's face tomorrow.She wakes up every morning by saying "amma" and "appa":-)what more do I want to hear first thing in the morning!